So I was just sat there and thought, I don’t like that, it’s
not a characteristic I find attractive, I don’t think I’m capable to adjust to
liking that or being around that, but what am I supposed to do about it.
When you find you’ve really gotten into someone and have fallen
in deep, you love being around them, they make you laugh and they’re fun, you
get deeper and deeper, and then along the road you come across a bump, a bump
of something you don’t like, it’s always been a deal breaker from an early
stage, and something if you had known from the first step you would have backed
up 2, but what are you supposed to do now, you’re in too deep, there are real
feelings and 2 real people involved, and you’re finding this is a problem for
you, but it could be normal to them and their life, what can you do? I mean
realistically at this stage it’s not really your place to demand change just
out of preference, and then again why is it them that has to change, I find it
with some people that they are so stuck in their ways, they are never really
open to the idea of change on their part and expect their partner or
potential to change for them, either way
the idea of change always has to be put out there just to make a relationship
of any kind work, you usually find with these people that 9 out of 10 of their
relationships, they felt there was something that had to or needed to be
changed, it’s as if some peoples brains are connected in such a way, that they
have to find or are always attracted to a sort of a “fixer-upper” type person,
where they want someone who they can change to suit them or they can work on,
like they avoid the whole effortless perfect partner type of person because
they would feel lost without something to pick on, but then am I that kind of person
for attracting this sort of partner, with a characteristic that needs to be changed
in my opinion, but not theirs, why is it I can’t just change myself and get
over it, can’t I just rewire my brain and not let it affect me, I mean maybe
they have a preference of something to change about me, but are just more open
to the idea of letting go and not demanding an alteration.
Why has it all become about change, change, change, why does
it always have to be about change? You wouldn’t be making a puzzle and when a
piece doesn’t fit right, you would wish it to change to fit instead; you'd just
get back to looking for the right piece wouldn’t you? Why is it we can't do
that in life, just put down the wrong piece of our puzzle and stop forcing it
to fit or change and just move back onto the search, have we really become that
lazy?
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